Researchers agree on the fact that loneliness is associated with the experience of a man of his alienation from the community people, history, family, nature and culture. And the modern man feels lonely most acute in situations of intense forced intercourse with the family, among his work colleagues or school, during professional activity among friends. About that same loneliness and how to cope and will be discussed in this article. HOW TO OVERCOME LONELINESS The problem of loneliness remains valid at all times, partly because people do not try to solve it. They prefer to escape from loneliness by engaging in casual dating, maintaining formal relations with family and friends, piling up a variety of chores, work and family commitments. On actual fact, you should not asn away from loneliness, and find free time to sit down and ponder what can be done to overcome or reduce the feeling of loneliness.The following recommendations will help determine the choice of the way to solve this problem:Remember that most people are lonely in this or that point in my life, and nothing terrible in this;Benefit from experienced loneliness: you can becomemoreself-confident, aware of the meaning of their lives, understand their new goal relations with society, friends, loved ones - those with whom there was a break in relations;become a bitmorefriendly: to make efforts to talk with parents, classmates or fellow students, colleagues, sincerely ask about their experiences;enjoy a favorite activity: Read a good book, start something to write, listen to music and dance, engage in physical exercise and rest;resume communication with interesting people for you;become brighter,moreattractive: your hair cut, buy or sew new clothes, go on a diet, do some exercise, improve your social skills (become self-reliant, develop in their communication or leadership skills, trained in self-regulation);Think about what you do is always "excellent" (sports, education, housekeeping, art, etc.) to continue to move to action;focuses attention on your positive qualities (sincerity, depth of feeling, sympathy, etc.) and do something useful for someone, as did the eponymous heroine of the French film "Amelie";Find new ways to meet or communicate with people: join a club or a section of interest, go to a dance or a disco, take part in debate or talk shows, find a kindred spirit on the Internet; use the help of a psychologist, a specialist and go through training to overcome feelings of loneliness.What is solitude?Solitude - a mental state and feeling of a person in terms of real or imaginary communicative deprivation (isolation from other people, lack of meaningful communication, lack of communication, etc.). In general manifests itself in three forms: an ordinary, extremely situational, and artificial (experimental and therapeutic). On the psychological level of loneliness is associated with such emotional reactions as sadness, depression, boredom, fasstration, depression, anxiety, fear, isolation, and leads to a change in personality traits of man.To distinguish between loneliness as a state of forced isolation and as a desire for solitude, the need for it.CAUSES OF LONELINESSThe causes of loneliness are quite diverse. They can be divided into external and internal. External - is independent of human causes, such as widowhood, divorce or break personal relationships, jail time, a change of residence, etc. In such cases, the loneliness is born as a result of sudden complete or partial emotional and psychological isolation of man from the people that make up the usual social circle. The internal reasons are related to personality characteristics, prone to experience this condition: low self-esteem, inability to love, it is unrealistic targets, low communicative competence, age, pessimism, introversion, etc. It stands alone as the derivative of the individual and the situation in which it resides.MEASUREMENT OF LONELINESSReveal the level of feeling his loneliness can be, using the test D. Russell, L. Peploe, M. Ferguson, "The scale of loneliness." This technique allows you to quickly and accurately diagnose the three levels of loneliness:low when the person primarily focused on the interaction with other people;average, which is due to the state rather forced isolation or natural human need;high associated with social isolation, anxiety or depression, and requires a certain correction.REFERENCESCarnegie D. How to win friends and influence people. / Under total. Ed. Ph.D. Zinchenko, VP, M.: "Progress", "Graduate School", 1990.Mental status / Comp. and general editing L.V Kulikov. - St.: Publishing Peter, 2000.Psychological tests for professionals / Avt.-status. NF Comb. - Minsk: Sovrem. shk., 2007.Fromm E. The art of love. M., 1995.© «How to live with loneliness?" Comb Natalia, 2008.