a boor. Likely
say nasty things, we can not say it differently. And keep us from fully
trivial things:





1) Fear. A very common phenomenon - the asdeness as a way to protect.



2) Fatigue, when "all killed a". When exhausted itself, there are claims to
people and the world.



3) pressed for time or simply "park the". When do I have to do a lot and quickly.



4) stimulation. Arises when the situation is a conflict and he was the first
begun ».



All these reasons are sufficiently weighty, and when they are several, the situation
becomes unbearable. And yet, on the basis of personal experience, I can
say: everything that is said roughly, can be said tactfully. How? All very
simple.



First and foremost: control your emotions.



In the Vedas, the ancient scriptures of mankind, it is said that our feelings are like
disposable horses. Become an experienced rider, besiege their horses before
as you "suffer". In the world there are many techniques for self-regulation - Search
his own. The most simple: inhale, hold your breath and count to 10.



Secondly, to develop self-confidence.



Find yourself in your inner core. Say to yourself, and remember: I'm nobody
nothing should. You can answer correctly and succinctly "NO" instead of
emotionally - colorful, "Fuck you ...»



Third, as banal as it may sound - like myself. Pay yourself
more time. Find a business for yourself - something that brings you
joy. Dance, embroider, swim - whatever, as long as it was
only yours. Put this occupation in the list of the most important things to do and do not cancel
for the sake of his work, the interests of others, except in extreme cases.



Fourthly - just allow yourself to pause. Relax. Eat "Twix"
Finally.



Fifth, do not confuse their problems with strangers. If on your "no" to the source
respond adequately - this is his problem. Watch for his reaction, it
could be interesting. Even if he is on edge, do not go after him. Will not start.



Sixth. Say to yourself, and remember: you no one should. If you do not
got that answer you want - not in a hurry and do not press on the situation.
Perhaps the solution will come from the other side, where you do not even expect. Remember
all that is done, all for the better?



Seventh and finally: cultivate a friendly attitude to people
remember that you are human too. Do not scold, and do not hurt yourself. Find yourself
a couple of warm words. Go to the mirror, look at him and say to yourself: you
well done! Today you made a lot of good things. I love you.



Good luck!

Sazonova Elena.



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