The first thing you need to
do is step on the throat of his own fear and stop
fear. When you're able to talk sensibly, you will realize that
your competitor, and now the boss, you will create such conditions that you
leave on their own. He understands: you - it
potential enemy.
But first, how to pat your nerves. So think seriously,
and whether you should continue to destroy their nervous system and self-esteem.
Better recognize myself frankly, at this stage, you lose, and
will now bemorereasonable to minimize losses. Of course, the final decision
take you, but, apparently, your main problem at
today - is to overcome your fear. After all you wonderful
expert in their field and be able to find decent work for you.
Why do men so often costs muchmorecompetent and capable persons
female? The reasons are many, but one of the key - it's inherent
ladies fear of success. This typically follows women's fear of fear
life.
Fear of life is perhaps the most powerful, sits deep in the subconscious
each of us. But some overcome it easily, others - with difficulty.
Many women lose precisely because of their conscious and unconscious desires
often do not coincide. There is internal conflict
.
Such women tend to underestimate their own value, to dwell on
their mistakes, afraid to make decisions, afraid to stand out from the total mass
not to go "on the line of fire." That is not to be seen, but
therefore not subjected to any kind of criticism.
If you do not bring the case to the end and give up without a fight - that is the case.
Friends or foes?
"Being a slave to fear - is the worst form of slavery
" - George Bernard Shaw said. And really, what could be worse,
than terrorize ourselves.
You notice that has been particularly active fears plague us in the evening or at night.
We tossing and turning in my warm bed, drinking valerian, mentally bringing
unpleasant situation to its logical conclusion. Moreover, seeks to provide
worst developments. And covered with clammy sweat.
Heart starts pounding wildly. Fortunately, with the first rays of the sun our night
nightmare is fading away, but the fear of bursting as the needle punctured the air
ball. And we understand that just our imagination working against us.
And yet this state is repeated with remarkable consistency
again and again.
Should we be afraid of fear?
If you know how to suppress and
control their fear, in this case, it performs a useful protective function
. He seemed to warn you of potential dangers
trying to draw your attention to the situation.
Fear may render good service to become a kind of motor which makes
overcome the problem. In your mind like a lit
red light and gives a call to action.
Suppose you feel that you have to work on the dark clouds looming and
bleak prospect of being fired. You start
feverishly thinking about how to improve the situation in their favor. And if you do not
'll fuss and all will be able to properly reflect, reason and intuition
help you get out of an unpleasant situation.
If it were not for fear of losing their jobs, then most likely you have fired
situation under control.
Or another story. You suddenly feel the spinal cord that favorite
on you not respond, look at him some absent and far away.
First, of course, you covered a quiet panic.
"Help!" He did not love, do not otherwise, as he has another. "
Fear
is now fully mastered your whole being, and burst in your
once serenely sleeping soul of this emotional storm. However,
after a while you calm down a bit and start to talk
health. Most likely you will be engaged with their appearance and try to return the location
husband.
Do you think that causes a person to earn lots of money,
buy an apartment, a car and open a bank account? Fear of poverty.
Life and the media is constantly tossed
us all new reasons to fear. For example, ten years ago on
terrorist acts, we knew only by hearsay. A white powder,
containing anthrax spores?
We strongly harassed on all sides, and instead help us
get out of the depressed state, only deeper into him.
TV newsmorebegan to resemble the movie series
horrors. Themoreadrenaline causes the audience TV channel,
the higher the rating. So help yourself.
fear factor.
Ask first counter: "What do you
afraid of?". And most likely get the answer: "Nothing".
In fact, it is either hiding something, or disingenuous, or is in
the dark about their fears. Often they are hidden deep in the subconscious
, and some ladies are not even aware of their existence.
Although they often visit the following thoughts.
These thoughts are familiar to you, is not it? Themoreoften you have them
occur, the higher your rate of fear. In addition, you
inherent fear of success.
Your task - to conquer their fears and constantly monitor them. Otherwise
they gradually destroy your self confidence. In life, do well
only those people who are stronger than their fears. The danger of these
negative emotions is still in the fact that they can grow into
phobia, that is to be pathological. Then we'll sign up for
appointment with a psychiatrist.
Fears - under control
known that
most of all we are afraid in descending order - poverty, disease, critics,
disappointment in his personal life and death. All other fears in one way or another
adjacent to them. No matter what it is afraid of you personally - that
favorite goes to the other, or that you would be fired - methods of dealing with these enemies of our peace
universal.
The best antidote to fear - it's self-confidence and
high self-esteem. Believe in yourself! You all can! Another thing is not too
oversize bar. A lot of anxiety and expectation
troubles related to the false system of values, with inflated
requirements themselves, which often are not met.
Often we poison the lives of vague vague anxiety and restlessness.
Formulate as clearly as possible what exactly are you afraid and why. With
clear enemy to fight is much easier than with the hidden.
Not throw a storm in a teacup. If there is something you can not, do not scold yourself
. Convince yourself that this is just a temporary setback,
that you will surely achieve his. Not Emphasize
others from their mistakes.
Constantly "weeding" their thoughts, fears, change them with a minus sign
a plus. For example, if you are afraid not to deal with some important task for you
confidently say to yourself: "I'll do it necessarily, I believe in
yourself!". Because your subconscious mind is like what orders to perform.
If you believe in what you loser, then so be it.
Not communicate with those people who constantly try to intimidate you or
talk about their fears. Keep in mind - the fear of contagious! Usually after
communication with negative people permanently spoil the mood. See
television news is notmorethan once a day.
If you are afraid of talking with the boss or a loved one,
Lose situation in mind. Imagine what will happen
on your scenario. This will help you remove the negative emotional background
and to minimize the unpleasant experiences.
Part from fears of a laugh. Often see comedies or read
books from the library world of humor. This will help to see the problem with
parties caricatured. Bring your own thoughts to the absurd and
laugh at him. Gay people are much happier andmoresuccessful in life,
than dark, devoid of a sense of humor.
Do not go in the wake of fear. He is a bad adviser. Excessive caution
- a hidden fear of failure. If you do not learn to take risks, you get
success. Take the example of men, they are not afraid to fill his bumps and
often domoreto life. In the words of Ivan Bunin, "Most
risk who are not at risk".
Natalia MAKSIMOVA