specialist of Moscow's Institute group and family psychotherapy Catherine MIKHAILOVA.
Once
me at the reception came to a young woman with a rather strange problem.
The gist of it was what it is. Dame two years, married, a great relationship with
husband very much want a child. But - does not work. Spouses were
thorough examination, both: for me, this fact confirmed that
mutual desire to do. After all, men tend to be very
resist this kind of manipulation, their logic is simple: "It's your
female business - you and bit you, but I have everything in order." Frankly, I
confused: It was not clear at what here I am. I was cautiously
ask a woman about the different circumstances of her life. And suddenly became clear
curious thing: it turned out, her grandmother and mother were
similar difficulties with the birth of baby - with no apparent medical
pathology and pregnancy does not occur. In this case, and his grandmother, and mother
implicitly had the feeling that the pregnancy is now not very
way. A visitor to my impression that this is a feature
their families that women in their family for whatever reasons, the time
can not give birth. But then all getting better - and pregnancy without complications
and baby healthy. In principle, the lady wanted one thing - that
it all happened quickly. In the family history and had to deal.

Heroine of the story prevented pregnancy psychological scheme, so to speak,
"family tradition". Our job was to save a young woman from
stereotype - in our family all suffer for a long time before
pregnant. " As you understand, if not soon
charming daughter was born, I would not become a story to tell. Many
families, when people can not decide to divorce him or stay
together as time and the baby is born: time pregnancies
solves this issue for a woman. Many of the ladies said afterwards that
first feel trapped, but then comes the relief, deliverance
of painful hesitation: Thank God, everything is clear, the body decided for me.

There are many different points of view on the relationship between body and soul. According to one
views of the body - the house of the soul, on the other - a kind of machine, which
govern consciousness and will. Doctors, researching the disease,
generally agreed that there are quite thin, not available
direct experimental study mechanisms that
through physical, tangible manifestations completely realize our desires,
fears, beliefs.
example, a person is convinced that after forty
all people fat. Ninety percent of what this man is
after forty, and will gain weight: in fact it is long before the forty
prepared himself for the fact that all the metabolic processes slow down. He himself
created a program, like going to live after forty.

Prejudices about what might happen to the body, there are a huge number.
From sufficiently studied and typical - the so-called "syndrome
Anniversary ": when a person is seriously ill or even die in one day
with someone whom he had lost - even many years later. For men,
post a heavy loss, the numbers surrounding the tragic date,
are high risk zone: this is a reaction of consciousness or subconscious
a strong experience.
The most common situation,
familiar to every living person - suddenly fall ill head. In
headache all sorts of varieties. But when it occurs at
unpleasant conversation with difficult decisions during delivery
exam or after the scandal, we should ask ourselves: what
hurts my head?
General, for a psychologist's physical reaction
nonphysical facts - a huge and very interesting topic. To
with different parties to consider the mysterious connection between mind and body,
tellmoreabout this experiment. In the thirties, people,
involved in hypnosis, was very popular research inspired in
injury and inspired in the burn. Before the man was in a hypnotic trance
, touched a cold snout, suggesting that he was hot,
or metal object, suggesting that this is a hammer - and really
appeared blister or basise. Although in fact neither burn nor strike was not.
Incidentally,
similar technique - work with "controlled fantasy" -
successfully used throughout the world, including in oncology. The word
"psychosomatic" in Russia sounds ominously: anything that has a root "psycho",
our fellow citizens alarmed and repelled. In the West long ago ceased to be frightened
these roots. There quietly talking about
psychosomatic component in the disease, and general practitioner
often refers the patient to consult a therapist. This is a common practice
. In our medicine until all the harder -
prejudice makes itself known. And because of the fear of the therapist's prolonged illness ...
Finally, millions of people tormented by another anxiety, which can be defined as
fear of life: in front of her unpredictability, uncertainty,
just before that it is hard . How to get rid of this fear? Here at
every way their.
Someone calm myself that without the will of God no one hair falls from his head.
Someone
begins actively to make money, a lot of money. It's not greed -
for his money in the first place means security. Alas, not very
clear what the same amount of money ensures that security ... Once I
conducted training in the bank and they told me pretty exotic
story about a single client. The bank is a non-stop phone -
duty gives advice about credit cards and other financial documents
. And call at night from Holland, from the hotel -
owner of the card itself in hysterics, just screams: his ATM
zagryz this invaluable document. Do not print the card and does not throw money! Night,
Holland - but he must pay for the hotel. Really help to
the next morning, the girl-consultant can do nothing, it can only
calm. But how to calm the client, for which literally came
end of the world? I do not know how it resolved the financial issue, but as a psychologist
understand what all the hysteria. The hero of this story
created the illusion of security in the form of money on the credit card and,
idea was actually insured against all contingencies. But
unexpectedly stupid machine jammed a piece of plastic - and all,
complete collapse. The man starts to behave as if suddenly came under
bombing. There are people who from the vicissitudes of life obscured
family, children. Children - everything. This man says: "For myself, I do not
fear me that, but the children ...". In fact, his fear of life, he
carries on the family and children.
One of the most common forms of
fear of life - the search for a disease. This is an exciting experience
virtually no restrictions, because medical practice is full
most contradictory facts. With a strong desire of any person can
find itself with some deviations, which can reflect up to
infinity.
In humans, there are many different literature, not
only popular, but a purely scientific, he learning to read not just
CBC, but also immunologic, begins to monitor the dynamics of their condition
...
In principle, there is nothing wrong
that people love their children, earn a lot money or
watches carefully for health. But at some point
exaggerated attention to one side of life can lead to the same dependence,
excitement as a player, smoking or drinking.
Today dragging all
new sanitary systems in vogue, and became the original
form of mass psychosis. This psychosis is actively and shamelessly exploited
"the health industry." How many ticky-tacky knizhonok published and vigorously
sold out! Than just the fans are not treated to the health of modern powwows
- lemon, lime, hydrochloric acid, various food additives
. All of Europe today is eating the young shoots of pineapple, they alleged,
break down fats. Although in order to lose three or five kilograms
, we just need to eat less and walkmorein the fresh air
.
Rampage advertising explains simple: walks in the fresh air and
douches will not sell, and some tea
"Flying Swallow" - simply, when in fact it is an ordinary
laxative. From constant diarrhea, you, of course, sooner or later
lose weight. But are you sure that you have exactly that?
In a series of lessons
"I am hosting an" I'm in my college, I often
ask: "Where do you want to start to change attitudes
to their own health? ". And although the general advice when it comes to
sole and unique life is not quite correct and give
profanity, it is recommended to reconsider its attitude to itself
itself. Only by learning to pay attention to the needs of his soul and body,
woman gets respect. No one she does not give, and do not have to wait for this
.

Tatiana ROSCHIN