be), not knowing how to be parents of the husband (wife), who they are, how life is lived." But who pays attention to these words? Does it matter who he (her) parents and - most importantly, think young people love each other.
But sometimes (and unfortunately often the case), that over the years one of the newlyweds know how much a pound of Down and Out, as husband (or wife) begins to literally dictate how and what to do in the family, and also requires the implementation of these guidelines in a rigid form. Start arguments and quarrels.
Time passes, are already closely acquainted with the parents of the second half and then things become clear ... It turns out that one of them (say, the father) set at naught else - of no objection or her opinion and can be no question, in a family in a tasly medieval Domostroy. And if a family of their parents, too, was Domostroy, but everything was exactly the opposite - the head of the family has always been, say, a mother and no father? Moreover, all decisions are made by the mother, of course, kamufliasya them under the general solution with the father - and where to go to rest, and which car to buy, and what kind of furniture ... In a word, at all ... Yes, that's really bad ...
And here is one of the newlyweds, having experienced the hardships of oppression, in thought - what to do next? How to live? Either put up with all the "flourishes" husband (wife) and take everything as it is to keep the family together ... Whether taking part, and yes ...
A latent in the mind the question arises - what would would happen if was not rejected by the council of relatives, "not to marry until they know the parents alleged second half? Could it really all so programmed by the environment in one family in which a person was born and raised?
Let's deal ...
children grow up in the family and against his will absorb the style of relations between his father and mother, until to the smallest detail - how many times cleaning is carried out and how often to change linen, what tone to discuss any issue and debating at all.
and the child wants it or not - will continue to adhere to this style of relationship in their own family. If the man's father never raised his voice to his wife (mother), it will almost certainly also will receive their son when he grows up and marries. If the girl has grown into a family where the sovereign mistress was his mother, then a young woman will seek to control her husband.
family receives stable when the model of relations, soaked in parent families,moreor less the same (on the basic parameters).
If not - then the inevitable squabbles and scandals. For instance, if a parent families where the groom grew up, authoritarianism and tyranny reigned husband, father, where the word husband and father was law, and the bride's family, on the contrary, the head of a wife and mother is what you get ... as it is, unfortunately, got many.
Nevertheless, I sincerely wish all the women and men who are building their marital relationship, to think and seek compromise solutions. With good will, reason, these compromises can always be found.